What should I do with my bi-polar adhd boyfriend?

You have to decide when you are going to start "rewriting" your history. Nothing will ever dramatically improve in this relationship. Unless you do something now you will continue to stay in what I would call is an abusive relationship. It is going to be very difficult to make a break. You need to "get the police involved". One thing they will advise you is to get a restraining order. These are very easy to obtain but they don't provide 100% protection. The only thing they do is allow the police to arrest him if he violates any of the terms of the order.